Throughout the day, week, month…the things happening around trigger our emotions. Emotional triggers can be either positive and negative. Think about your emotional level like a gas tank. Positive emotions fill the tank, giving you energy and motivation. Negative emotions empty the tank, sapping energy and motivation.
Most of us have things we do (or don’t do) that are bad for us. We shrug our shoulders and shake our heads when we think about trying to change those habits. I have been thinking a lot lately about habits as I began to despair of my ever-growing waistline. I have grown out of the habit of exercising regularly.
We all have a voice in our head. For many people that voice rarely stops. That voice, our automatic thoughts, impact everything we do. Some thoughts we govern. We set our minds to something. But most of our thoughts are automatic – they pop up spontaneously without our conscious prompting. Buddha said, “We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts we make our world.”
Think back to some of the most heated arguments you have had or witnessed. What was being discussed? Politics and religion are often at the foundation of some of the most virulent arguments I have seen. How often during these arguments does anyone acknowledge the difference between fact and opinion?
Negative thinking patterns and negative beliefs can significantly impact our state of mind and well-being. If you are often angry, frustrated or stressed, there’s a high probability that you have some negative thinking patterns and core beliefs you can address.
If you are sick and tired of being stressed and frustrated, it may be time to take a look at how negative thinking patterns are impacting you. Many things in our lives are out of our span of control. But your thoughts are within your control. We sap our energy and enthusiasm daily with these negative thinking patterns. Let’s look at a few of the most common negative thinking patterns and how to quickly break them.
Most of us have a little voice in our heads. The frequency with which is fills our ear is different from person to person. But for many people it is a relentless tide we’ll call the chatterbox. Maybe that voice is just a running commentary of what’s going around us. Often, however, it is whispering (or shouting!) negative thoughts in our ear.
Has anyone ever called you “emotional”? As a passionate, opinionated young woman, it was definitely a word I heard often. Have you worked with someone who lets their emotions overwhelm them? The tone of their voice, the adjectives and qualifiers they use, the way they hold their body, all play into communicating that emotion to everyone around them.
All our lives, we learn through our experiences. But more than just learning, our experiences brand us sometimes with deep beliefs, call them core beliefs. Traumatic experiences and experiences we have had repeatedly often mark us the most and leave strong negative beliefs.
This has been a long week. On Wednesday, I thought I just might explode. How many times a day do you feel like banging your head against the wall? Are you familiar with the tense gut and paralyzed rabbit-in-headlights feeling when your to do list has gotten longer than the hours in the day?
Over the years, I have worked many complex, cross organizational, cross discipline projects which required influencing without authority. I learned many lessons – both from making mistakes and from applying some sound principles to my work ethic. In this blog series, I’ll be exploring what I consider the core elements of influence as well as some thoughts about creating a shared sense of urgency, which is critical to successful projects.