When we have suffered a major setback, often our self-confidence takes a hit. We start to doubt ourselves and fall more easily into bad habits. Here are 5 traps you can avoid when your self-confidence has taken a hit.
In the last year, I have been undergoing a considerable career change and transformation to coaching and training. This blog series will talk about the different stages of that change, how it came about and what I’ve learned from the experience so far. Three years ago, I was still dreaming of making a change without a clue how to go about it. I’ve come a long way baby, but there is still a long, long way to go!
As we push through career challenges and look after our families, many of us neglect to take care of ourselves. I know how it is. You’re not eating so healthy since you are often on the run. Getting exercise is a happy ideal that you never have the time for. You’re catching up on work after hours. You’re not sleeping enough.
He throws himself at the ball and tumbles to the ground. “I’m ok!” he shouts as he runs away, determined to get that goal. I am always amazed when I watch my 4-year old grandson play. There is one, almost millisecond, when we hold our breath, expecting a wailing, unhappy mess. And sometimes, that’s what we get. But most of the time, we exhale with a smile, “I’m ok” echoing in our ears.
Are you tearing your hair out over unrealistic goals at work? Humans have a need for fairness and autonomy (control). As one of the top workplace stressors, unrealistic objectives and demands make us feel overwhelmed, but also angry and powerless. But what can you do about it?
Throughout the day, week, month…the things happening around trigger our emotions. Emotional triggers can be either positive and negative. Think about your emotional level like a gas tank. Positive emotions fill the tank, giving you energy and motivation. Negative emotions empty the tank, sapping energy and motivation.
We’ve all had to do it – work with someone we really, really don’t like. It can be both physically and emotionally uncomfortable working with people you don’t like. Dislike can be triggered by physical appearances, unconscious bias, attitudes or opinions, even the sound of someone’s voice. Generally speaking, we dislike what we can not relate to and what we do not approve.
Research shows we spend roughly 1/3rd of our adult lives at work. It’s no wonder that workplace stress factors heavily impact both our physical and mental health. The National Institute for Occupational Safety and Health has documented the impacts of prolonged workplace stressors in areas such as cardiovascular disease, musculoskeletal disorders, and psychological disorders.
Influencing without authority is a critical job skill for project managers. Keeping the cats herded requires a combination of strong project management and communication skills. When you combine that with influencing levers, you can master the most complex projects. Here are five ways to influence without authority.
We’ve all had good managers and bad managers, and lots who were somewhere between. The worst managers of all are the ones who create a toxic work environment. You know the ones – I call them toxic bosses. It’s the team where everyone holds their breath when the boss comes in the room and don’t let it out till (s)he’s gone.
As a manager, you set the tone for your team. Your management style drives how the team behaves collectively. And it can change the way people behave individually as well. Putting people first is rarely the focus in a shareholder/profit driven economy. But there is a growing movement for something more humane. Compassionate management goes beyond managing the mission. It’s about managing the people.
Every project manager has to deal with stress. Complex projects, difficult deadlines and changing conditions all contribute to a stressful work environment. The project manager is in a unique situation to reduce the stress levels of a project. Here are 10 ways a project manager can reduce stress.
A successful career requires planning and a vision. My last blog, Job vs career, which do you have? focused on how to build a career vision. Once you have a vision, you need to have a plan. Setting career goals for yourself and acting on your goals helps you to stay on track. This blog will take you through a few ways to get organized and get started with career planning.
Most of us have things we do (or don’t do) that are bad for us. We shrug our shoulders and shake our heads when we think about trying to change those habits. I have been thinking a lot lately about habits as I began to despair of my ever-growing waistline. I have grown out of the habit of exercising regularly.
We all have a voice in our head. For many people that voice rarely stops. That voice, our automatic thoughts, impact everything we do. Some thoughts we govern. We set our minds to something. But most of our thoughts are automatic – they pop up spontaneously without our conscious prompting. Buddha said, “We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts we make our world.”
As you move up in your career, the tactical execution skills which brought you this far will begin to take a back seat to more strategic skills. So, what can you do to prepare to go from tactical to strategic and start to demonstrate strategic thinking?
It takes time to build confidence and no time at all to tear it down. We all have setbacks. Some are easier than others to bounce back from. When our self-confidence is on the decline, we question ourselves, we second-guess ourselves. It slows us down and makes it hard to build trust. When your confidence has taken a hit, here are a few things that you can do to start gaining it back.
Do you have a job but not a career? Are you worrying about the next layoff in your organization? Have you been coasting along based on the last job or jobs you’ve done? Do you wish you were doing something else but don’t know what? Stop putting off taking a closer look at your next career move – take charge of your career.
There’s a huge difference between having a job vs career. We have a job. A job is a defined role for specific pay. We do it with our paychecks in mind. We may learn some specific skills on the job, but without the context of progressive achievement, the skills we learn take us nowhere in particular. We are only focused on our specific role and pay little attention to other roles.
When we think about high stress industries, we think about policemen, firemen, first responders, nurses and doctors to name a few. It’s clear that these people are confronted with violence, pain and danger on a regular basis. So when we hear that IT is a high stress industry, it can be hard for some to make the jump. No danger, no pain, no violence – no big deal, right?